cocktail hour
first dance
father of the bride's toast
best man's toast
dinner blessing
the wedding cake
music and dancing
last dance
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the reception

Immediately following the wedding, guests and the bridal party walked over to the Warren Lodge, a renovated New England farmhouse, for the cocktail hour. An hour or so later, everyone stepped out into a festively-lit tent for the reception dinner.

cocktail hour

During the cocktail hour, Katherine and Chris finally got to say hello to guests. Food was served at various stations throughout the house. The house itself was decorated with photos of Chris and Katherine's childhood and courtship, as well as photos of relatives, friends, and family weddings.

Unbeknownst to many of the guests, several of the family wedding photos were digital reproductions made by Marc Overcash from originals too unique to leave the safety of home. Frances Overcash kindly used her abilities as an archivist to arrange the photo displays.

During the cocktail hour guitarist Maurice Cahen continued to perform and improvise a set of classical spanish guitar and jazz music.

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Katherine and Chris dancing After speaking with the guests, the emotional highlight of the cocktail hour for Katherine and Chris was the first dance, where their friend Tonya Miller sang a heartbreaking rendition of Patty Larkin's "Had To Be You (Deja Vu)."

The song choice was hotly debated ahead of time, because both Chris and Katherine have loved Patty Larkin's Live in the Square album since their highschool days, but over the years they spent apart, Katherine adopted "Valentine" as her "missing Chris" song while Chris adopted "Had To Be You" when he felt far from Katherine. The ensuing debate illuminated an interesting facet of what each brings to the relationship: for Kathrine the music is paramount, and for Chris it's the lyrics that make the song. Katherine felt the music and happy energy of "Valentine" perfectly illustrates how she feels about Chris, while Chris feels the lyrics of "Deja Vu" say it far better than he could.

In the end, Chris won the toss, and Tonya very kindly worked up her interpretation of the song - less than two weeks before the wedding! Tonya has a background in classical jazz, taught herself guitar, and now writes and performs her own music in the Boston/Cambridge area. She has just released her first CD: Keyhole. You can learn more about Tonya and order a CD from her website.

Here are the lyrics:

Had To Be You (Deja Vu) by Patty Larkin

Don't believe in deja vu
Don't believe we ever lived before.
But if I did, and if we do,
It had to be you
I'd come looking for.

I know I've seen love float by,
On a whispering wind, and a lullaby.
Like an old sweet song that I once knew;
I never learned the words but I could hum the tune.
Now look whose got me singing 'bout the birds in June;
It had to be you, had to be you.
Got me singing out loud ...

Moonlight shows on this face of stone,
Cold and cracked in the garden, all alone.
I turn away as you walk me home,
Hiding from the mirror of my soul.
Cross my heart; watch the ocean roll,
It had to be you, had to be you.
Ain't never gonna part, no.

Sun comes up in the blink of an eye,
Shines all day, then it's gone with a sigh.
Clouds come in and they catch the glow;
One look at your face and I know,
I'm holding silver, holding onto gold,
And it had to be you, had to be you.

And if you ask me, I'll say 'I do',
To something I already knew,
It had to be you.

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After professing to never having given a speech before, and after sweating it out for weeks ahead of time, Katherine's dad, Paul Guilbault, gave a toast that left the audience laughing, crying, and on their feet. He later turned the speech into the multi-media experience found below. We encourage you to click on the links in the speech- trust us, there's something for everyone.

Here are the words he spoke:


I am honored that Katherine and Chris asked me to make this speech. When I asked them what I should talk about, they said ". . . just talk about the normal things you usually talk about." That leaves things wide open:

But I don't think that's what they had in mind.


Today the Guilbaults and the Hasses are surrounded by most of the family and friends that have been important to us during our lives. Some have traveled hundreds and some thousands of miles just to be here today. On behalf of Dennis and Barbara, Katherine and Chris, Jeannine and I - we welcome you all and thank you for your friendship and support over many years - and for sharing this special day with us.

The Couple

I want to start by apologizing for Katherine and Chris being late. Traveling at near glacial speeds, it took them   f  o  u  r  t  e  e  n    years to get here today!

Katherine first met Chris in 1988 when she was a fourteen year old freshman at Westford Academy. Chris, a dashing seventeen year-old, heart-slaying junior, caught her eye as they interacted with each other at Drama Club. The attraction was mutual; a friendship was started and progressed slowly through Katherine's first year of High School. This, as it turns out, was more than OK with Jeannine and me! We were really nervoius about this older man. I was mindful of my own freshman year of high school at St. Joseph's in Lowell, and of just how much older the stubble-faced, deep-voiced, muscle-toned juniors and seniors seemed to me.

Katherine and Chris remained close over the summer of '89 and were practically an item when they started the following year at Westford Academy, she as a sophomore and he as a senior. It was at the Homecoming Dance that they shared their first kiss and officially began the journey - albeit slowly - that brings us here today. By the way, Jeannine and I know about the first kiss because Chris mentioned it years later; the detectives we had following them completely missed it!

The Bride

Katherine has been fortunate in that she has always known what she wanted. In early High School, she decided to become a Pediatric Speech Pathologist and that's just what she did. In High School, she also decided on Chris and what a great choice that was. I have always been prouder of Katherine than I've been able to say. Katherine, I feel so lucky to have you as my daughter. I can't believe how beautiful you look and, just how fortunate Chris is to have you as a wife.

The Groom

Chris, we have long gotten over the nervousness we felt when Katherine first mentioned you. Once we met your family, once we learned of your integrity and your amazing devotion to Katherine, all of our concerns vanished. And that was long before we knew anything about your incredible drive, your staunch ethics and sense of fair play, and the spontaneous humor and wit that is so much a part of you. With your parents' consent, Jeannine and I are proud to welcome you into our family as our first son.


Before I propose a toast to our new husband and wife, I would like to offer a few words of advice.

Chris, consider the words of Oscar Wilde: "Women are meant to be loved, not understood." Remember than in an argument the woman always gets the last word. If you say anything after that it's a whole new argument!

Katherine, never go to bed in the middle of an argument and, be very diplomatic when you let him get YOUR own way.

I would like to conclude my advice with a few lines by Ogden Nash, (1902-1971):

To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong, admit it;
Whenever you're right, shut up.

The Blessing of the Apaches

I have another short passage I would like to read.

The Blessing of the Apaches
author unknown

Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness for you,
For each of you will be companion to the other.
No you are two bodies,
But there is only one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place,
To enter into the days of your togetherness.
And may your days be good and long upon the earth.

The Toast

Ladies and gentlemen please stand and join me in a traditional toast to the bride and groom: May you always be there for each other, partners in marriage as husband and wife, may the sun shine brightly on your lives, and may you always be as happy as you are today. A vôtre santé!

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Not to be outdone, Kevin Hass, Chris' brother and best man, gave the following toast:

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Angela Mandalfino, college friend of Katherine's, very kindly assumed responsibility for blessing dinner and the assembled guests. Drawing on her Irish heritage, Angela spoke these words:

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Nearly seven years ago Chris discovered The Icing On The Cake bakery in Newton, MA. Not only did they make the most delicious cake he'd ever eaten, they got him out of a Valentines' Day jam Katherine's sophomore year at college when he needed a last minute present. (She still raves about how good that cake was.)

At the time they joked that if they were ever married, and still in Massachusetts, they'd have their wedding cake made by The Icing On The Cake. And guess what?

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Katherine and her dad After dinner, Katherine and her dad opened up the dance floor by dancing to a French-Canadian song called "Franc You." Unfazed by the song's blistering clogger's pace, they were joined by Barbara dancing with Chris, Jeannine dancing with Kevin, Liz dancing with Dennis,

Dave fiddlingOnce the dancing had been officially started, guests crowded the dancefloor to the sounds of Sinatra, Letters to Cleo, the Vinyl Avenue String Band (local Boston favorites), and best of all, the bluegrass phenomenon that is Dave Tweedie! Dave fiddled and sang his way through several songs, including June Apple, which was a special wink to Chris who had heard it, shall we say, more than once, as Dave honed his fiddle-skills during the years they roomed together at Davidson College. (Dave now plays professionally with the Ocracoke, NC-based Molasses Creek. They're working on their fifth CD, tentatively called "An Album of Silly Songs.")

For the rest of the evening, ___ the DJ, kept the music upbeat and danceable, and the crowd obliged by making the dancefloor their own. Anyone interested in a dynamite DJ, contact:

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In a departure from tradition, all married couples were invited to the dancefloor, and then couples were excused based on how recently they had been married. (Strangely enough, Katherine and Chris were the only ones who had been married less than a day.) The couple who had been married the longest received Katherine's bridal bouquet, but everyone else got to enjoy the sight of the couples dancing, and speculation ran high as to which couple would win.

When the music stopped, the couple who had been married the longest turned out to be Uncle Phil and Aunt Carol Kay Johnson, who had almost sat out the dance!

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The music of the evening tended towards foot-tapping bluegrass, both modern and classic, and Chris couldn't resist suggesting "You are My Sunshine" from the O'Brother Where Art Thou? soundtrack as the last song. His mom sang it to him when he was young, (didn't everyone's?) and it seemed a fitting way to end the evening with a smile.


© 2002 Chris and Katherine Hass, all rights reserved.